Category: Anxiety

Why having uncomfortable conversations should be part of your 2019 resolutions

This year you should have more uncomfortable conversations. This a resolution that many people forget about every year. I feel this just may be the thing that you need for more personal growth in 2019. You can learn so much more in these uncomfortable conversations. I noticed that after the conversation ended we both felt our perspective was heard. This is a very important part of a conversation. For many people, to be heard is more important than someone just listening. An uncomfortable opinion can be a good or bad thing depending on the situation. I have had many uncomfortable conversations about my chronic illness. Most of the time when I mention Charcot Marie Tooth, I have to relate it to Multiple Sclerosis or Muscular Dystrophy so people can understand what it is like. The shocked look that people have says it all. They tell me “But you don’t look sick” like that is a compliment. I think that this year it is important to see things from different perspectives more than ever before. Have a calm conversation with someone that may not share your opinion. Make sure the other person is open to being heard and you are open to the same. Being uncomfortable is not always a bad thing because in the right circumstance it may end up turning into a life-changing experience. I will leave you with this quote “A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”Timothy Ferriss

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Planning To Go Out With CMT – Holiday Edition

First, let me start by saying I am a fan of autumn and the holiday season but this year has been a bit more stressful than expected. I feel like every day is building on top of one another to create this mountain of stress. I am hoping to get my climbing gear and begin my climb to the summit but that has not happened yet. This was a year with a lot of surprises and as a person with CMT, I prefer a more planned approach because I need to have a plan in place for the things that could happen such as bad weather, unusally placed stairs, slippery floors and find out if the event has ADA accessibility. This is something new for me this year, I would normally just go with the flow. This worked for me most of the time but a few times I paid the price of a week of rest but at a minimum, it would cause stress that would upset my stomach and create body aches. This became progressively worse as the event continued so by the time the night ended something fun had become something that was another bad memory in my holiday past. I told myself this year will be different and I got my wish kind of because it is unlike any other holiday season before it. I find that a detailed plan helps to create a feeling of preparedness which helped my understanding of the situation and realize I had done all I could do to make the best of this occasion and it is time to trust myself and enjoy the party. I did enjoy the party even though things were not perfect and unexpected things happened like icy curbs and wet mopped floors which are not the best for someone with CMT. However, I made it through and so can you! I would just say it will take some extra planning…I never thought I would say that but it has helped me reduce my social anxiety a lot.  I wish you good luck in making the best plan for you this holiday season!  I will leave you with this quote “Plans are of little importance, but planning is essential.” ― Winston Churchill

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Invisible Anxiety

As a person with chronic health issues, I find myself with invisible anxiety. This anxiety is not seen by others but it is felt by me. I only notice it after I become very anxious. This invisible anxiety would present itself as frustration. I don’t feel that frustration is the best way to deal with this so I am trying to find a way to manage my anxiety in different ways. One of the reasons I feel that this invisible anxiety exists is because as a person with a disability I always feel less than. I try to push myself to be something I am not and may never be. As a consequence of pushing oneself, I become exhausted and this is when my anxiety begins. If I address it at that time, I may be able to calm myself down but if there is a life event that does not allow for a period of rest this anxiety begins to carry over. As this anxiety carries over it will reach a tipping point which in my case means complete exhaustion and rest for an extended period of time. The reason I feel that it is invisible anxiety is that during these days people usually do not see or hear from me. So it seems like I am always doing ok but in reality, that is the one good day I had that week. I do not have a disability that can be masked but I continue to try to make the best of a difficult situation. I have learned that the best way to conquer this anxiety is to make it visible maybe not to everyone but at least to yourself. Once that is done and you brought the anxiety from the darkest to the light, you can begin to deal with your anxiety in real time instead of waiting until you have no choice but to deal with your anxiety.  I will leave you with this quote “Our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strengths.” ― Charles Haddon Spurgeon

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