Category: Love

Why having uncomfortable conversations should be part of your 2019 resolutions

This year you should have more uncomfortable conversations. This a resolution that many people forget about every year. I feel this just may be the thing that you need for more personal growth in 2019. You can learn so much more in these uncomfortable conversations. I noticed that after the conversation ended we both felt our perspective was heard. This is a very important part of a conversation. For many people, to be heard is more important than someone just listening. An uncomfortable opinion can be a good or bad thing depending on the situation. I have had many uncomfortable conversations about my chronic illness. Most of the time when I mention Charcot Marie Tooth, I have to relate it to Multiple Sclerosis or Muscular Dystrophy so people can understand what it is like. The shocked look that people have says it all. They tell me “But you don’t look sick” like that is a compliment. I think that this year it is important to see things from different perspectives more than ever before. Have a calm conversation with someone that may not share your opinion. Make sure the other person is open to being heard and you are open to the same. Being uncomfortable is not always a bad thing because in the right circumstance it may end up turning into a life-changing experience. I will leave you with this quote “A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”Timothy Ferriss

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Dating With A Disability

I have seen a lot of posts over the years about trials and tribulations of dating with a disability.  This has always been an issue for me as well. I never felt like I was worthy of someone’s affection. I always felt like I needed to overcompensate for my disabilities with intelligence and/or humor because I felt that no one would accept me with all of my problems. I tried this method for years and even had some success but as my disease progressed it became harder to hide. I made a lot of mistakes but I learned from them. One constant that I noticed was that most of the people I dated never mentioned or seemed to feel like I was less than anyone else. I finally came to the conclusion that I was causing the problems in my relationships because I did not allow myself to be my true self. I always thought that when they find out how sick I am they will leave me so I might as well start to push them away now. This inability to be who I was gave me daily anxiety, stress, and frustration that had a negative effect on my relationship. In the end, I succeeded in pushing that person away with no hope of reconciliation. I regret that now not because I am not happy with my life but I never wanted to make someone feel less than the amazing person they are. I realized that accepting yourself and having the confidence to be your true self is the first step in finding another person to be in a relationship with. So for people with chronic illnesses like me, embracing our true selves as the special and amazing human beings that we are is the most attractive quality we can have and it does not require anything more than what we are at this very moment. Eventually, you will find the right person for you and they will love you for the person you truly are. I know this is possible because that’s what happen to me and I have never been more myself and happier than I am right now. I will leave you with this quote “ Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.”– Malcolm S. Forbes

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