5 lessons I learned this year

This year has been life-changing for me. The events of this year will impact my life in a way unlike any other year in the past. As I reflect on the events of this year I am hopeful that next year will bring more peace, joy, and happiness. I learned a lot about myself and others this year. Some good things and some bad but all of the moments had value because of the lessons that I learned. I am going to reflect on 5 lessons that I learned this year that will better prepare me for 2018.

  1. Everyday armor is added to protect you from adversity.  I understand that many of us have trials and tribulations just to make it through the day but we are strong for the struggles we have on a daily basis. Instead of viewing the struggles as a burden try to view them as pieces of armor added daily to help with the daily struggles of chronic illness. The more armor you have the less those struggles can affect you the next time they occur.
  2. Finding what works for you is all that matters. I spent a lot of my time in the past trying and reading about what works best for others but this past year I focused on what worked best for me. Whether it was a lifestyle, health or relationship choice I made a conscious decision to find out how each aspect of my life was affecting my well being and spent my time removing those toxic elements from my life. This has dramatically changed my mood and outlook on life. I am more positive and have a better understanding of what works best for me on a daily basis and I have seen the benefits in all aspects of my life.
  3. Living in the moment is where peace is found. Meditation teaches that living in the present is what provides the contentment and calm that most of us are looking for in our daily life. Chronic illness causes additional anxiety that may cause us not to be in the moment all the time. However, appreciating the moments when you are feeling better than the normal chronic illness baseline is so important to living a fulfilled life and why those fleeting moments should be cherished and not ignored.
  4. Listen to your body. I spent this year truly listening to my body. I loved my body on the good days and the bad. I did not dwell on the bad days as much as I use to instead I respected that my body was having a bad day and needed special attention.  Just like any other relationship the one with your body is personal and you must listen and responded like you would to any other loving relationship in your life. You must give your body respect and be loving in order to receive the same from your body.
  5. Life is shorter than you think. I know we have heard this all our lives that life moves quickly and you must stop to smell the roses but I have a different theory. I think that if you are in the flow of your life and on the right path the smell of roses will be the fragrance of your life and would not require you to stop and smell them. I spent a lot of my life doing what I thought I was supposed to do versus what the universe was gently nudging me to do. This blog is something that is in the flow of my life and when I sit down to write it never feels like I need to appreciate it because I love it that why I do it. I found more things in my life that make me have the same joy I have from writing this blog.

So, as this year comes to an end I am hopeful that next year will bring new experiences and new lessons that will help me move forward in my life’s journey and I hope to share those experiences with you with the understanding that you are not alone in your struggles with chronic illness or just in life. Best wishes and Happy New Year! I will leave you with this quote “Tomorrow, is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good one.” ― Brad Paisley

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This Week Sy Suggests – Happiness Tips

Every week I try a few new things so you do not have to. This week’s top five suggestions are from Gretchen Rubin and Elizabeth Craft’s Happier Podcast.  They have a bunch of suggestions to try at home. I am going to give you the 5 that I tried this week.

  1. Make the Bed – This seems like it’s a little thing but every day it can add to the day’s accomplishments.
  2. One Sentence Journal – I have always wanted to have a journal and I have tried all types methods from a set time to 2 mins day but the one sentence journal was a success for me this week.
  3. Meditation – This has been something I have talked about in prior posts but I will continue to make this suggestion. Even if it’s 5 minutes a day, I always notice the difference in myself.
  4. Stretching – I struggle with this daily but I am trying to stretch at least a few times a week.
  5. Happiness Demerits and Gold Stars – I like this concept because listening to the Happier Podcast has made me think about what I do poorly or well when it comes to my own and the people around me when it comes to happiness.

Happiness is something that requires daily practice. I have tried a lot of different things and some things work and some things do not work for me. The success is from trying to be happier on a daily basis. If you continue to try new things to be happy those little things add up over time. I am no happiness expert when it comes to living with Charcot Marie Tooth, Scoliosis or Stenosis but I know that trying new habits and suggestions will have a positive effect on your daily mood. Let me know if you have tried or are planning to try any of Gretchen Rubin’s suggestions in the comments below.