Dating With A Disability

I have seen a lot of posts over the years about trials and tribulations of dating with a disability.  This has always been an issue for me as well. I never felt like I was worthy of someone’s affection. I always felt like I needed to overcompensate for my disabilities with intelligence and/or humor because I felt that no one would accept me with all of my problems. I tried this method for years and even had some success but as my disease progressed it became harder to hide. I made a lot of mistakes but I learned from them. One constant that I noticed was that most of the people I dated never mentioned or seemed to feel like I was less than anyone else. I finally came to the conclusion that I was causing the problems in my relationships because I did not allow myself to be my true self. I always thought that when they find out how sick I am they will leave me so I might as well start to push them away now. This inability to be who I was caused daily anxiety, stress, and frustration that had a negative effect on my relationship. In the end, I succeeded in pushing that person away with no hope of reconciliation. I regret that now not because I am not happy with my life but I never wanted to make someone feel less than the amazing person they are. I realized that accepting yourself and having the confidence to be your true self is the first step in finding another person to be in a relationship with. So for people with chronic illnesses like me, embracing our true selves as the special and amazing human beings that we are is the most attractive quality we can have and it does not require anything more than what we are at this very moment. Eventually, you will find the right person for you and they will love you for the person you truly are. I know this is possible because that’s what happen to me and I have never been more myself and happier than I am right now. I will leave you with this quote “ Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.”– Malcolm S. Forbes

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